Okes…what a mission. Non stop hardship and I only have one.
Please share with me your war stories. This past long weekend was the most brutal thing Ive ever endured. My kid was just so kak, so much screaming, moaning and crying. Everything was a fight. literally everything. When he eventually fell asleep I would play God of War, its so therapeutic seeing a character rage like that haha!
Also, woman are mental and they go even more so when their kid is unhappy.
Everything is fine for now, but Im dreading this coming weekend. Its like weekends break the routine and send the kids straight to shitheads ville.
Some people are just “made” to look after children. Me and my wife were not. We found that sending the little critter to a creche improved both our sanity, and made weekends not only more bearable, but even enjoyable because we spend so little time with her during the week. We had the neighbour’s daughter over on Monday to baby sit (we we’re both working,so no long weekend here).
I found that the little one needs so much more stimulation to be happy than what we’re giving at home. That’s why she’s so happy going to creche. So naturally, weekends are a bit crazy. We focus on playing with her, sitting next to her on the floor, we go walking, we spend some time in the garden, we get dirty, we pull the dog’s tail, we splash the dog’s water bowl (even if it means we have to change. again.)
The thing is, you’re happy playing GoW 2-3 hours straight, if not longer. You can watch a movie, or binge-watch a series. But your terrorist can’t. They have a very short attention span, which lasts only a few minutes. So you need to break your day down into few-minute sections. The book you read this morning, you can do that again later, you can pull the dog’s tail, again, or play with specific toys again later. (the tail-pulling thing doesn’t get boring it seems)
So that’s what we do on weekends. We focus on the little one and slot in with her routine. We change what we’re doing frequently. (Can’t remember when last I watched an series’ episode from start to finish).
And we give each other breaks. I’ll play with the little one if I see my wife is going to crack. And she does the same, giving the other some time off. And, sometimes, when you’re about to lose it, you see the your SO is about to lose more of it, so you suck it up and give her a break.
Otherwise, the grandparents are only 30 minutes away in dire emergencies.
I found that my kids really settled down nicely at around 3 years or so. We still have fights when they are misbehaving, but its a lot easier to explain things to them.
Well, we have a good year coming up. Wife is 6 months pregnant with our first kid (a boy) and we have quite a bit of experience with kids of all ages. We practically raised our niece who is now in grade 8. The neighbours have 2 kids, 2.5 years and 10 months old, who we babysit frequently (even sleepovers sometimes). They are brave though - they are now expecting their third child!
All the best for the next 2 and a bit months, if you need any advice just ask me. We have been through the ringer! cholic, allergic to mosquitoes, hates sleeping, fussy eating, dummy addict, bed wetter etc etc.
I work with 2 1/2 up, if youre strict (put foot down) they will listen, tested with my lil cousin over easter weekend and it proved to be true… dont want my own though…boyfriend agrees fully… little terrors
I’ve still got to get there. My oldest is 22 months and youngest is 3 months.
It’s tough but I love it.
Congrats @FarligOpptreden such an awesome time in your life coming up.
Quickly buy that PC or console you wanted, it wont be long till that money is nappy and school fees
I admire you people who have the guts to bring children into the world. As long as I could remember my plan was to never have children. I simply cannot envision myself in a parental role. I have cats and they already are way too much for me to handle.
On my 30th birthday, I got myself a vasectomy as a present. So good luck to all of you. I will pass.
I admire your steadfast honesty and suredness. Im also jealous of your freedom
At least 60 percent of earths population is probably not fit to have kids yet they breed like rabbits.
…and then people who would be awesome parents just cant have children.
I have to say for me personally the financial aspect of it was always too scary. That and of course I know the shit I put my parents through. So I firmly believed if I have children it will come back ten fold to me. I ain’t taking that chance.
