My ow parents put a sail on the pool the day after we found out we were having a kid
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at least ask them to fence it off or make it not accessible to the little ones.
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Any considerate grandparent will not even have to think about it in my opinion. Otherwise just say that itās a concern.
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Dude, with little kids around, itās essential that the pool has a net or fence or something unless they have an adult hovering over them at all time, but over and above that, itās actually against the law not to have it, and if a kid drowns in that pool, they will be in huge trouble.
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Even if there is an adult around all the time. With all the stories that you read, they ALL say there were adults!
ANd now it is becoming a huge fight between my wife and myself, because I am keeping my daughter away from my wifes mother.
So FU***n damn pissed where I am sitting now, can hardly even think straight to do my work!
Itās not something to take lightly, my kid is a bit bigger now and can swim well enough to get to the side of the pool and climb out at least, so Iām a little easier about it now, but even at my own parents house, and even when I was there, I would insist that the pool net was on, and if it wasnāt, I would go put it on myself.
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Besides, itās hard for grandparents to keep up with little kids, they canāt be on top of them the whole time, you have to make the environment as safe as possible
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Agree with you 100%
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@Flex - Im sorry to say but tell your wife that you NEED to speak to her mother about it. Its my biggest fear - considering my youngest brother managed to get thru a fence and drown almost 3 times between the ages 0f 2 - 4.
That was WITH adult supervision - they get away from you. You are in the right on this.
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Dude, my own pool net has already saved the life of my nieceās child, with us and 7 more adults around for a family lunch, the family was sitting in the lapa (in view of the pool), and my wife and I were inside organising food, and we heard a splash and a cry, and the kid had fallen in the pool, got a bit of a splash as the net took the initial impact, but he had managed to crawl back off the net onto the paving before anyone got to him, and if he hadnāt been able to cry because he got caught by the net, who knows if anyone would have noticed before it was too late. Those parents have 3 small kids, so itās not easy to keep track of them all at once, and if people are visiting, they arenāt paying full attention to kids and pools all the time.
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Morning all, active discussions today I see.
No debate here. Your MIL and her BF should have taken the initiative long ago and fenced AND netted it. Kids that age are as curious as hell about everything. Turn your back for a moment and theyāve gone adventuring without you.
We added plastic mesh fencing to the standard pool fence around ours so that the little one couldnāt even slip through the gaps, and I put a padlock on the gate that only I had a key for so that no-one could inadvertently leave the gate unlatched.
Also, get your daughter off to toddler swimming lessons ASAP - even with all the precautions and care, shit does still happen and the best you can do as a parent is give them as many tools as you can to help them get through stuff.
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Not sure why this is in any way up for discussion. Itās not some personal attack on your MILās capacity to look after the kids - itās about removing a MAJOR safety concern. Iāve been around two families who lost a child to drowning in a pool. Why? No net.
Sorry to say, but anyone whoās making an argument out of this is being pretty irrational about this. If feelings are being hurt - I can tell you they will feel a lot worse if they have to fish the lifeless corpse of a child from the bottom of the pool, or have to be on the receiving end of a phone call saying your child has died.
Sorry about being so blunt, but thatās the beginning and end of it. It destroys families. Iāve seen it.
If you have a pool, and there are frequently kids around - get a net. It shouldnāt even be a question.
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I mean, I would choose the life of my child over someoneās feelings being hurt any day. And I donāt even have/want kids. Itās justā¦logic.
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100% with you, I have a mini panic attack just imagining that happening to my boy or having it happen to someone elseās child that I am responsible for. A pool net is a very small price to pay to remove that risk.
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Onto a lighter topic, I did a BMW collision avoidance and skid control course yesterday.
So much fun on the skidpan! And itās not every day you get to spin out a BMW 340i, and those cars are amazingā¦
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Iāve also done that, it was amazing and a lot of fun.
I had the advanced driving course though, so also drove on the track with the M3. Fantastic time!
And yes, I agree with everyone else regarding the kid. Itās just too risky. How to approach it though thatās more tricky.
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Wow what a heavy discussion going on here.
Afternoon all. We had mist till about 11 am was awesome.
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Ah Silent Hill. The mist reminds me of that. How I miss that game.
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I canāt get enough of this song.
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